There was a time when an older woman going out with a much younger man was something unusual and a bit weird. But, the dating sands have shifted, and increasingly, middle aged women are not only choosing to step out with men much younger than they are, but are not embarrassed to shout from the rooftops about how amazing the sex is. Only last week American actress Charlize Theron 49 raved on Alex Cooper’s, ‘Call her Daddy’ podcast that she’d had a hook up with a 23 year old and wasn’t fazed to trill how ‘It was really f------ amazing and I've never done that and I was like, 'Oh, this is great, okay.” And science backs this up. A new study published in the journal Sexual and Relationship Therapy last month, says women who date younger men are having better sex lives than those who are with older men. Woo hoo! I couldnt agree more. When I first signed up to an online dating agency several years ago, it was a revelation to find that the online dating world is awash with handsome young men who actively want to wine and dine older women like me. It isn’t just the mind blowing sex that is giving us middle aged women a new zest for life, young men are not only gorgeous, and full of hope, they are less snippy and cynical than men our own age. Here are some things you only know when you date someone much younger than you… You may see an ageing hag when you look in the mirror, they see an experienced seductress who is exciting and different. They want to be your hero and will go to any lengths to impress you and if that includes getting you Haagen Daas ice cream at four in the morning so it will be. You have discovered the best antidote to a post-breakup/divorce slump. Their attention is so heady, their adoration so blissful, you will start to look and feel younger because this rush of endorphins is going to your head. It is quite honestly like human anti-ageing cream. I stopped obsessing over grey hairs and low slung derriere, my eyes shone brighter, and I looked ‘glowier’ - so my friends said. As for sex, they will reignite your long-lost libido. When a young man serenades you, it is a thrilling experience. The mere sight of his toned physique and come hither smile is a like a hit of pleasure to the psyche. I remember how with one younger man, we laughed and held hands in the street. We kissed for ages, and I couldn’t believe what I had been missing. As I lay on his chest (which may I say was magnificent) he took me to places I had never been, and that doesn’t mean Scotland. Its normal for us older women to feel self conscious when it comes to baring all for the first time, I remember at the beginning, I used to get undressed with my back to them. Don’t. They chose us over women their own age. Turn off the negative voice in your head, relax and let go of any inhibitions. If you act in a confident manner they will pick up on the positive energy. Besides which, as older women, we have something to teach young men, and the whole dynamic is like a breath of fresh romantic air. Dating a much younger man is the quickest way to take a holiday from your own life and all its attendant midlife anxieties and problems. I was so giddy, I wanted to dance on tables and be outrageous. They wanted a woman who lived for the moment and didn’t whine and ask where the relationship was going. Unencumbered by the weekly supermarket shop, unpaid bills and the “is he/she the one” angst, Its win win Experience has taught me that young men are willing and in plentiful supply. While the dating landscape is barren when it comes to men our age, the much younger man is a willing romantic warrior. You may find yourself spoilt for choice. They will send you flattering messages, invite you out for drinks, weekends away. Pace yourself, especially if you have a busy week ahead, you need your sleep. He doesn’t. Baggage-light, the young buck is not saddled with ex-wives or gaggles of children clogging up his life and his emotions. He is young and living for the day, enjoy their youthful enthusiasm.. It makes a welcome change from the old ex who is more likely to be found slumped on the sofa watching the rugby. Or even worse, golf. It is easily done, but if you mistake passion and excitement for long-term love, you are setting yourself up for a fall. Take the relationship for what it is, a fun happy fling, yes the feelings are real, but dial down the long-term expectations and you can have the time of your life