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Dear Abby: My husband expects me to change my schedule for his retirement
@Source: cleveland.com
Dear Abby: My husband retired three weeks ago, and he has been driving me crazy ever since. I’m a night owl, and he’s known it since we met 10 years ago. Today, he told me he’d be playing golf with an old friend tomorrow at 8:30 a.m. at a course 45 minutes away and needed to get up at 6 a.m.
I asked if he could be extra quiet in the morning and use the guest bathroom to shower so he wouldn’t wake me an hour early. He huffily put his towel and shampoo in the guest shower, stomped back to his easy chair and plopped down heavily. When I asked him what was wrong, he said he was annoyed that he couldn’t take his shower in our regular bathroom. I said I was annoyed that it would make me lose an hour of sleep before working an eight-hour day. He said, “Sorry you’re annoyed, but I’m retired, and things are changing!”
I never expected him to get up earlier in retirement. Is it asking too much that my routine and sleep schedule not be disrupted as long as I’M still working? After that, anything goes, but I still need the structure.
-- Thrown in Massachusetts
Dear Thrown: I will assume that your marriage has been a happy one until now, and that usually involves compromise. I do not think your request that he shower in the guest room so you could stay on your sleep schedule was asking too much. I wonder why he would say “things are changing” unilaterally. Could he miss the unquestioned authority his former job afforded him? I ask because of the tone in which he said what he did. If he decides to punish you for asking him to shower in the guest room on mornings when he has a golf game, suggest that you will sleep in the guest room on those nights.
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