MISS MANNERS by Judith Martin, Nicholas Ivor Martin and Jacobina Martin DEAR MISS MANNERS: Just over a year ago, myself, a friend and that friend’s cousin “Grace” were asked to be bridesmaids in the wedding of another friend, “Tara.” Tara did not have a lot of female friends, so Grace was asked, despite being just an acquaintance. She agreed. Fast-forward several months and Grace was sending out invites to her own wedding. She had a limited budget and space for her ceremony and reception, so she did not invite Tara. Tara was upset and thought that she should have been invited in reciprocation, even though she had not made an attempt to build or maintain a relationship with Grace since her own wedding. While I did not get myself involved in the matter, it got me thinking about what would be proper. Should Grace have invited Tara to her wedding because she was in Tara’s? GENTLE READER: There is a difference between forging a friendship and casting roles in a wedding. But Miss Manners is beginning to see why it was necessary for Tara to engage in the latter. Please send your questions to Miss Manners at her website, www.missmanners.com; to her email, dearmissmanners@gmail.com; or through postal mail to Miss Manners, Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.